How to Remove the Psychological Addiction for Smoking-and Start for ENJOY Giving br>
by: john Ryan
Already since 1972, over 60million people in the USA only had successfully stop smoking!
p>At one stage over 60% of the adult population was addicted to this drug. Today it is 28% and falling……..
Now, isn’t this a fair thought……
I f all these people can do it (60 MILLION OF THEM!) – and they include EVERY TYPE of person imaginable – surely that is PROOF that IT IS POSSIBLE to successfully give up smoking.
He re’s another Fact……
We now know from the latest scientific research, that although nicotine is one of the world’s fastest acting drugs — the actual PHYSICAL withdrawal pangs when you give up ARE SO MILD, YOU WILL HARDLY NOTICE THEM WHEN YOU STOP.
YES, you have read that sentence right!
I kno w you will want to argue with me on this point, but, first, let me first make the following points…….
The De sire to Smoke
Yes, when you stop smoking you will feel the desire AGAIN and AGAIN to smoke.
We all know that feeling — ‘I must have a cigarette’. But that desir e in itself is not bad or painful.
It is jus t a feeling, a sensation we feel in our body.
However… …..this is where, for most of us our problems start…..
If we start to fear that ‘craving’ or try to use ‘Willpower’ to REPRESS it or FORCE it go away, — “I wish this feeling would go away” we WILL create pain and tension.
This is what as smokers we have all done in the past.
That ‘feeling ‘ of wanting to smoke then becomes painful, annoying and terribly irritating.
Now this is th e hard part to realize…….
The pain, the h orror does not come from the desire to smoke, but from HOW we deal with this desire, moment-by-moment WHEN we stop.
Can I emphasize this:
You do not have t o experience ANY pain or agony when you stop. Yes, when you stop you W ILL experience a ………..
Temporary feeling o f loss
A feeling that you a re being deprived of something
A feeling of emptines s
A feeling that you wil l never be able to enjoy yourself again.
A feeling that you must have a cigarette
These feelings, although very real in themselves are not inherently bad or painful. What is important is how you d eal with these feelings when you stop.
The key part of giving up smoking naturally is learning how to deal with these cravings when you stop.
Right now, you t will not o give up smoking because you are TERRIFIED of how you will FEEL when you can’t smoke.
Let’s be honest.
You s moke moment because you enj oy it.
Or — to be more accurate: You smoke now because you have conditioned yourself to enjoy it.
It is important that we are hon est with ourselves here.
In fact, even the ‘THOUGHT’, the mere ‘thought’ of not been able to smoke probably fills you with utter dread now.
But there is another undeniable f act: This ‘pleasure’ is killing you.
Again we must be brutally honest h ere. Everyday, you are systemically destroying your health.
This is the conflict all smokers fac e.
On the one hand, smoking is killing y ou and you desperately want to stop…..
..And yet on the other hand, you don’t really w ant to stop because you believe you really enjoy it.
Yet, one other truth cannot be denied an d this applies to every smoker……..
We are terrified of how we will F-E-E-L w hen we can’t smoke. We are convinced it will be unbearable and impos sible.
Right now, the ONLY thing — yes , THE ONLY T HING stopping you from giving up smoking is this fear of how YOU WILL FEEL WHEN YOU STOP.
And yet this very fear is the actual key to g iving up smoking naturally.
Giving up smoking is really all about learning HOW to deal with the cravings and feelings you WILL get when you stop.
When you learn how to do that – you will realiz e that there is nothing to fear when you give up.
What is there to fear ?
When you get the desire to smoking, which you will , again and again – - you will now take the OPPORTUNITY to ‘change’ or ‘transform’ that craving so that it is actually enjoyable or at least tolerable to experience.
You have decided to give up sm oking. It’s dinnertim e.
You have finished a day’s work…. .
You finish the meals and….. the subconscious, you rea ch for a cigarette.
But then, of course you remember you no longer smoke.
Bang! At that moment, certain gut feelings will arise.
Feeling s sorry…….. the impression that you lack o ut on something important and then maybe….. terrible feelings of emptiness…..
We all know how it feels.
But the real question is: H Oy will you address this feelin g — this craving to smoke?
Will you just suffer it, try to repress it and hope that it w ill go away?
That is one option. The old willpower method.
Or will yo u surrender to the feeling– and begin smoking more ( promising to start again tomorrow)?
Or will you – - for the first time ever: – - follow our instructi ons and actually ALLOW yourself to transform the feeling/craving so that it is actually enjoyable or at least pleasant or tolerable enough to experience.
You see, when you can do that, you will no longer be AFRAID of the se cravings when you stop smoking.
In fact, you will start to WELCOME them because they will give you another opportunity to RESPOND and DEAL with them in this NEW WAY.
This process is the essence of giving up smoking naturally and findi ng it a pleasant and life-affirming experience.
Are you now beginning to see how these principles also applicable to behold sing weight.
You see a beautiful cake. You want to eat it….when BANG! — You remem ber you are on a diet.
Now see HOW YOU feel like this happe ns?
Couldn’t we describe it a s ….
‘Feelings of regret……..a feeling you’re missing out on something that mportant and then maybe….. terrible feelings of emptiness…..
Isn’t it essentially the same feeling as not being able to smoke?
Howev Re, the real problem is the same with tobacco: How you’ll DEAL of th is feeling — this craving to eat?
Will you GIVE IN to it — and eat the cake or will you try and FORCE yourself n ot to eat it- and be miserable?
Why not consider our alternative?
Accept this feeling, this desire to eat. But, rather than give in to it, know h ow can handle and respond to them in a NEW way that Luong t you don’t MIND experiencing it?
Transform the craving so that it is actually enjoyable or very pleasant to experien ce.
The Joy of Giving up Smoking?
Remember, when you stop – yes, you WILL feel so mething but there will be not a physical agony, only a temporary feeling that you are MISSING OUT on something.
A feeling that you are being deprived of something SPECIAL — but these feelings will ONLY be temporary.
However, to quit smoking successfully and to start to enjoy doing it we must go deeper than these temporary cravings.
We must realize that :
You find it difficult or impossible to stop smoking now be cause……… you BELIEVE
ABSOLUTELY that you NEED to smoke and even deeper, you BELIEVE that if you give up smoking now, your life will never be as ENJOYABLE again.
In one sentence: You believe your life will be intolerable.
It is these beliefs tha t makes giving up smoking difficult NOT Nicotine addiction.
R ight now, you are not only the physical addiction of smoking but you are a psychological depe ndent or addicted to smoking.
If your addiction were purely physical wouldn’t all these nicotine patches have a 100% succe ss record ?
Yet, we all know that even if we use a nicotine substitute, we will still continue to feel a terrible desire to smoke.
Again and again, we’ll feel we must have a cigarette. At times, it will even get to the stage where we just do not care-even in the most serious warnings are will have no affect on us – we just WANT to smoke.
Where does this desire come from ?
It comes from our conditioning, our beliefs about smoki ng.
This moment, we believe that sm oking is an essential pleasure.
In fact, most of us have a te rrible resistance to EVEN thinking about giving up smoking.
Because we believe that in order to do anything about our addiction, i.e. give up smokin g — we would have to end our pleasure and ending pleasure is something we have NO DESIRE to do.
YOUR REAL JOB
Your real job in giving up smoking lies in REALLY UNDERSTANDING that you don’t NEE D to smoke.
Yo u remove the psychological addiction to smoking.
You will never be truly free until you realize that smoking is not a real pleasure and that when you stop , you WILL NOT BE depriving ourselves of a real pleasure……. ……and then you will not only be able to give up smoking for good but you will enjoy doing it!
About The Author
Is it possible to enjoy, yes ENJOY quitting smoking – and not gain ANY weight? Follow the famous 10-day Fre e online Quit SmokingCourse by John Ryan at www.quitsmokingonline.com and prove it for yourself. John Ryan is also the author of the Bliss of meditation